“From Dependence to Independence to Interdependence, Part 2” Comments, Page 1

4 Comments on “From Dependence to Independence to Interdependence, Part 2”

1. I like what you have to say, and it is certainly a journey I’ve been on for the last few years. I find there are certain situations where I feel completely comfortable and free to be myself and others where I feel a certain anxiety to perform, particularly in friendships, etc. where I really value and respect the other person. I wonder if I allow myself to be “too connected” to the people whose opinion I value, thus causing me unneccessary stress? I find when I consciously tell myself to be less “connected”, I am able to control it but I long for the time when I can simply be myself around most people, even the ones I am most fearful of losing. Any thoughts Evan? Thanks :)

2. Hi Mez,

   I’m not sure. My main thought is to find out what it is that you want from the people you feel too connected to. Then see if you can get this in other ways as well. This should help you be a bit more independant in relation to them.

   Eg. if you want approval can you get this from others too (or even from yourself).

   I hope this isn’t too abstract and makes sense. If not please feel free to say what I’m not getting and I’ll try to respond.

   Thanks for your comment. I appreciate you taking the time and that you are interested in doing more in this area (it’s connecting about these things that makes blogging worthwhile for me).

   Many thanks.

3. Hi Evan and all,

   I definately like the term work in progress the best!
   It is ever changing and refining within me. A honing in at times or it can be a major overhaul…too! Usually it is what is representing it self and demands attention….

   The older I get the less of care I have in some places that were once paramont to me. Wisdom of what is of true concern always takes a new post or reframing I guess. Though the same things like health and intellectual stimulation are always moving forward in me. The sense of being at peace in complete solitude is definately high on list. And a sense of connecting to many different cultures as well on deep levels have been an encouraging and delightful experience.

   My comfort levels are always enhanced by an inner defined voice of what I have actually defined as a need in this present moment and day.

   Independant but not just comes up alot for me… it actually feels quite impossible….to me in a sense. ??

4. Hi Diane,

   In a sense you are quite right I think.

   I like what you say about an inner defined voice very much.

   Thanks for your comment – there is so much in it.

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