16 Responses (3 Discussion Threads) to “The Adventure of Response-ability”

1. 

   Gordon Shippey

   1

   15th July 2010

   I’ve taken to using “accountable” and “responsible” as words to distinguish the difference between what we are are held to account for (account-able) as opposed to what we are able to respond to (response-able). When we or someone who’s opinion we value make us accountable for something for which we are not primarily responsible, suffering results. Stephen R. Covey says the same thing in a different way with his concepts of “area of concern” and “area of influence”.
2. 

   Evan Hadkins

   2

   15th July 2010

   Hi Gordon, I like accountable and responsible. I hadn’t made the link with Stephen’s terms – thanks. Thanks for your comment.
3. 

   charles roemer

   3

   16th July 2010

   I work with people who have had there children removed from the home by CPS.
   The distinction between being responsible and being accountable is a mute point when life has gotten so miserable the state is taking the kids.

   I use a different paradigm: help the parent identify the reason the kids are removed—and fix the problem. If I allowed myself (or my clients) the luxury of debating this issue they could not move forward.

   I suggest this: simplistic therapy with goals can work—trying to fix philosophical conundrums will not.
   • 

     Evan Hadkins

     3.1

     16th July 2010

     Hi Charles, I think we agree – part of my point was finding out what we can do. Thanks for your comment.
4. 

   Mary

   4

   16th July 2010

   Evan, The blog and this post in particular are indicative of my thinking and approach to life and my experiences. I have the ability to respond when it comes to my experiences, etc.
   I do enjoy finding ways to influence mine and others lives for good. And others in my life, I realize also enjoy the same.
   On my life experiences, I must say I never will be finished learning.
5. 

   Evan Hadkins

   5

   16th July 2010

   Thanks for your comment Mary. Here’s to a long life of learning for both of us!
6. 

   Pat Dewey

   6

   17th July 2010

   Thanks for articulating so well what has bothered me about different philosophies, such as “you attracted that into your life”. Yes, I may set the stage for something, or be on the look out for something, even subconsciously…but NOT EVERYTHING!
7. 

   Evan Hadkins

   7

   17th July 2010

   Hi Pat, it’s always great to know that what I write helps in some way. Many thanks for your comment.
8. 

   Marie

   8

   17th July 2010

   Hey, Evan -

   What you wrote here helps me also with the idea of the “Law of Attraction” . . . parts of that law have never sat well with me and now I can see why. Thank you!

   - Marie (Coming Out of the Trees)
9. 

   Evan Hadkins

   9

   18th July 2010

   Hi Marie, yes, there are parts of the ‘Law of Attraction’ that make me uncomfortable too. Especially the idea that we are responsible for everything. Thanks for your comment.
10. 

    Cath Lawson

    10

    24th July 2010

    Hi Evan – I can so resonate with this post. Many years ago, I was a victim of a horrific violent crime which left me ill – physically and mentally, for a long time. At first I guess I adopted the victim mentality and believed that what happened ruined my own life.

    I could only move forward once I realised that I was responsible for the way I let the crime affect me and I was also responsible for what happened in the rest of my life.

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