Comments on: Creating and Receiving Ourselves http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/11/25/creating-and-receiving-ourselves/ Archived Posts from the CR Health Net blog 'Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life'. Wed, 09 Mar 2011 17:36:51 +0000 hourly 1 By: Sarah Luczaj http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/11/25/creating-and-receiving-ourselves/#comment-600 Sarah Luczaj Mon, 30 Nov 2009 16:00:26 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1952#comment-600 yes, that it is in the nature of things to move and change, but when I relax into what is actually the case (even when the situation itself is not that relaxing!) then that process just goes on in it's own sweet way, sometimes I feel I am changing and sometimes it just changes all by itself.... yes, that it is in the nature of things to move and change, but when I relax into what is actually the case (even when the situation itself is not that relaxing!) then that process just goes on in it’s own sweet way, sometimes I feel I am changing and sometimes it just changes all by itself….

]]> By: Evan Hadkins http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/11/25/creating-and-receiving-ourselves/#comment-599 Evan Hadkins Sat, 28 Nov 2009 21:12:54 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1952#comment-599 Thanks Sarah, I'm glad the sense of relaxation came through. Do you experience the relaxing into what is and movement to change as being sequential? Is this what you mean by "things move on and change"? If so I understand what you mean. Thanks for your comment. Thanks Sarah, I’m glad the sense of relaxation came through. Do you experience the relaxing into what is and movement to change as being sequential? Is this what you mean by “things move on and change”? If so I understand what you mean. Thanks for your comment.

]]> By: Sarah Luczaj http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/11/25/creating-and-receiving-ourselves/#comment-598 Sarah Luczaj Sat, 28 Nov 2009 11:28:59 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1952#comment-598 I enjoyed this post very much, Evan, some of that sense of relaxation and receiving came through. I don't see any necessary tension between being/realising who we are and choosing/changing. In fact in my experience good therapy leads to just this relaxing into what simply *is*, out of which we have more of a sense of being able to choose...and things move on and change in their natural way. I enjoyed this post very much, Evan, some of that sense of relaxation and receiving came through.

I don’t see any necessary tension between being/realising who we are and choosing/changing. In fact in my experience good therapy leads to just this relaxing into what simply *is*, out of which we have more of a sense of being able to choose…and things move on and change in their natural way.

]]> By: Evan Hadkins http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/11/25/creating-and-receiving-ourselves/#comment-597 Evan Hadkins Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:43:34 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1952#comment-597 Hi Barbara, thanks for your comment. It's a remarkable moment when what someone says speaks to us like that I think. Hi Barbara, thanks for your comment. It’s a remarkable moment when what someone says speaks to us like that I think.

]]> By: Evan Hadkins http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/11/25/creating-and-receiving-ourselves/#comment-596 Evan Hadkins Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:41:54 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1952#comment-596 Hi Kathy, I know what you mean about feeling left out. I once wrote a book about a physical, christian spirituality. (A faith founded on an incarnation should include the physical I would think. It plugged a major problem in evangelicalism - and so was a major contribution blah, blah, blah. I was really committed to this and it took years to write. If you have the usual number of fingers you can count how many people were interested.) In this situation I've used a couple of approaches. 1. Talk about what it is that interests you or the other person about the activity. Sport leaves me for dead (what is it about pursuing round objects exactly?) but I can relate to people's enjoyment, their desire to improve, being part of a team and so on. 2. Sometimes it's possible to explore our difference together. This can lead to us feeling a greater appreciation of each other. It is paradoxical but appreciating difference can lead to us growing closer. Hope this helps. I think this may be your first comment on a post of mine, welcome. Hi Kathy, I know what you mean about feeling left out. I once wrote a book about a physical, christian spirituality. (A faith founded on an incarnation should include the physical I would think. It plugged a major problem in evangelicalism – and so was a major contribution blah, blah, blah. I was really committed to this and it took years to write. If you have the usual number of fingers you can count how many people were interested.)

In this situation I’ve used a couple of approaches. 1. Talk about what it is that interests you or the other person about the activity. Sport leaves me for dead (what is it about pursuing round objects exactly?) but I can relate to people’s enjoyment, their desire to improve, being part of a team and so on. 2. Sometimes it’s possible to explore our difference together. This can lead to us feeling a greater appreciation of each other. It is paradoxical but appreciating difference can lead to us growing closer.

Hope this helps. I think this may be your first comment on a post of mine, welcome.

]]> By: Barbara http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/11/25/creating-and-receiving-ourselves/#comment-595 Barbara Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:07:21 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1952#comment-595 Hi Evan, I think my experience of receiving myself has often come in the form of being 'handed' a part of my personality from another. Today I received a note from a young woman who recently got married. She is not actually a relative, but I had some distant connection to her family and therefore her as she was growing up. Since she's now old enough to be getting married, I realized how long ago we interacted. I was unable to attend her wedding, but I sent her a rather long letter of congratulations, explanation, etc.. Today's note was her response. Although in my letter I had not referred to her as I knew her as a child, she is after all a young woman and I feel she should be treated as such, her response gave me her impressions of me that she had when a very young child. What she said to me had a very deep resonance, I knew it to be true of myself, but not something I tell me. Who but a child is a better equipped to say what they see or feel? Interestingly, the same words she used have been delivered to me by others, over and over. Today however, I think I received them. Barbara PS I guess I too was drawn to archetypes, I had always wanted to learn Tarot and finally took a class about four years ago. I'm, at best, most often confused as I 'read' the cards and their combinations. It seems, even then, I hit on something that resonates for the person whose cards they are, or all those folks are just extremely kind! Hi Evan,

I think my experience of receiving myself has often come in the form of being ‘handed’ a part of my personality from another.

Today I received a note from a young woman who recently got married. She is not actually a relative, but I had some distant connection to her family and therefore her as she was growing up. Since she’s now old enough to be getting married, I realized how long ago we interacted. I was unable to attend her wedding, but I sent her a rather long letter of congratulations, explanation, etc.. Today’s note was her response.

Although in my letter I had not referred to her as I knew her as a child, she is after all a young woman and I feel she should be treated as such, her response gave me her impressions of me that she had when a very young child.

What she said to me had a very deep resonance, I knew it to be true of myself, but not something I tell me. Who but a child is a better equipped to say what they see or feel?

Interestingly, the same words she used have been delivered to me by others, over and over. Today however, I think I received them.

Barbara

PS I guess I too was drawn to archetypes, I had always wanted to learn Tarot and finally took a class about four years ago. I’m, at best, most often confused as I ‘read’ the cards and their combinations. It seems, even then, I hit on something that resonates for the person whose cards they are, or all those folks are just extremely kind!

]]> By: Kathy http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/11/25/creating-and-receiving-ourselves/#comment-594 Kathy Wed, 25 Nov 2009 13:24:36 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1952#comment-594 "I feel that some things simply are me and others simply aren’t. I can force myself to do things that aren’t me, and I’ll be less happy. I may get used to them in time, but they will never bring me joy." I have been thinking about this lately myself. You mention things that are you that are unique, but I find that things that are almost universally acknowledged as enjoyable or good amongst my peers (children, travel, sports) are of absolutely no interest to me. As a result I feel left out. “I feel that some things simply are me and others simply aren’t. I can force myself to do things that aren’t me, and I’ll be less happy. I may get used to them in time, but they will never bring me joy.”

I have been thinking about this lately myself. You mention things that are you that are unique, but I find that things that are almost universally acknowledged as enjoyable or good amongst my peers (children, travel, sports) are of absolutely no interest to me. As a result I feel left out.

]]>