Comments on: Habits: Benefits as Well as Baggage http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/04/15/habits/ Archived Posts from the CR Health Net blog 'Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life'. Wed, 09 Mar 2011 17:36:51 +0000 hourly 1 By: Mariana http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-320 Mariana Mon, 20 Apr 2009 14:39:46 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-320 Hi Lunna, It's going to the publisher this week, and they told me it takes about 45 days to get out of print and ready to launch on the market. It's originally in Spanish, but I am in the process of having it transtaled into other languages. If you wish, I can send you a free copy, just send me your email or an address I can contact you. (Click on my icon or name here and it will take you to my contact info). Hi Lunna,

It’s going to the publisher this week, and they told me it takes about 45 days to get out of print and ready to launch on the market. It’s originally in Spanish, but I am in the process of having it transtaled into other languages. If you wish, I can send you a free copy, just send me your email or an address I can contact you. (Click on my icon or name here and it will take you to my contact info).

]]> By: Lunna http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-319 Lunna Sun, 19 Apr 2009 11:43:04 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-319 Hi Mariana, Just out of curiosity; have you published your book? You have mentioned it in other post and sounds interesting to me. Hi Mariana,
Just out of curiosity; have you published your book? You have mentioned it in other post and sounds interesting to me.

]]> By: Mariana http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-318 Mariana Thu, 16 Apr 2009 19:33:09 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-318 ha ha ha =) ha ha ha =)

]]> By: Evan Hadkins http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-317 Evan Hadkins Thu, 16 Apr 2009 07:52:19 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-317 Hi Lunna (and Mariana) I prefer caramel to chocolate - weird I know. Wishing you all the best Lunna in putting the unhealthy relationship into your past. Thanks for your comment. Hi Lunna (and Mariana) I prefer caramel to chocolate – weird I know.

Wishing you all the best Lunna in putting the unhealthy relationship into your past. Thanks for your comment.

]]> By: Evan Hadkins http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-316 Evan Hadkins Thu, 16 Apr 2009 07:50:35 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-316 Hi Mariana, I'm an Edward de Bono fan. I think lateral thinking is a good way to shake up our habits. Congratulations on quitting. I'm told it can be a very hard addiction to break. The link with abuse is extraordinary. Many thanks for your comment. Hi Mariana,
I’m an Edward de Bono fan. I think lateral thinking is a good way to shake up our habits.

Congratulations on quitting. I’m told it can be a very hard addiction to break. The link with abuse is extraordinary. Many thanks for your comment.

]]> By: Lunna http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-315 Lunna Thu, 16 Apr 2009 03:49:25 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-315 Indeed a wonderful post Evan! I went back to an unhealthy relationship and I am regretting every single minute of it. I am strong in my position and with time I know it’ll be my past. Marianna, chocolates are almost like “Windex” in My Big Fat Greek Wedding, they are magical... cure everything! (I am joking). ;) Indeed a wonderful post Evan! I went back to an unhealthy relationship and I am regretting every single minute of it. I am strong in my position and with time I know it’ll be my past. Marianna, chocolates are almost like “Windex” in My Big Fat Greek Wedding, they are magical… cure everything! (I am joking). ;)

]]> By: Mariana http://blogsinmind.com/lib/2009/04/15/habits/#comment-314 Mariana Wed, 15 Apr 2009 23:43:19 +0000 http://counsellingresource.com/features/?p=1553#comment-314 What a wonderful post, Evan! About the part where it reads... Habits can lead to our not noticing new aspects of a familiar situation... It reminded me of a book I read long ago, called Lateral Thinking by Edward de Bono. Habits can prevent us from seeing things from a different perspective. I agree with that, wholeheartedly. I recently quit smoking and since I am not a "person of regular or specific habits" I had to find a very paricular way to do it. So, I just thought of the times I smoked, why I did it, when, what for, etc. Then I thought, okay, let's see how much I depend on the chemicals of the cigarette (nicotine, tobaco, etc.), from now on, I will not smoke. So, I had like a plan B or support plan called "chocolates" -there's always a good excuse to eat chocolates- in case I felt I was going cold turkey. And what I found was that after many years of smoking, I still had full control of my life and the willpower to quit. It was nice to win that battle, though I still miss my cigs, but since there was no critical reason for me to smoke. I took it like saying goodbye to a non-working romantic partner or relationship. Sometimes, you just have to let go, for your own benefit. And, right after I quit smoking, in my book on emotional abuse I wrote, "Why keep involved in a relationship that has provided little satisfaction compared to the damage it can cause?" Doesn't make much sense... just like smoking, no matter how much I enjoyed my cigarettes. =) What a wonderful post, Evan!

About the part where it reads… Habits can lead to our not noticing new aspects of a familiar situation… It reminded me of a book I read long ago, called Lateral Thinking by Edward de Bono.

Habits can prevent us from seeing things from a different perspective. I agree with that, wholeheartedly.

I recently quit smoking and since I am not a “person of regular or specific habits” I had to find a very paricular way to do it. So, I just thought of the times I smoked, why I did it, when, what for, etc. Then I thought, okay, let’s see how much I depend on the chemicals of the cigarette (nicotine, tobaco, etc.), from now on, I will not smoke.

So, I had like a plan B or support plan called “chocolates” -there’s always a good excuse to eat chocolates- in case I felt I was going cold turkey.

And what I found was that after many years of smoking, I still had full control of my life and the willpower to quit. It was nice to win that battle, though I still miss my cigs, but since there was no critical reason for me to smoke. I took it like saying goodbye to a non-working romantic partner or relationship. Sometimes, you just have to let go, for your own benefit.

And, right after I quit smoking, in my book on emotional abuse I wrote, “Why keep involved in a relationship that has provided little satisfaction compared to the damage it can cause?” Doesn’t make much sense… just like smoking, no matter how much I enjoyed my cigarettes.

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